Growing Up and Growing Apart

I started writing this yesterday but didn’t publish because I wanted to do it tonight. But things have change since.


Today I was watching the last few episodes of Scrubs, which I started watching only a few seasons ago but I like the way it was portrayed. It grew on me as it was easy to relate conveyed humor, but still dealt with real life drama.

If you’ve seen the show you know that JD (Zach Braff) is leaving Sacrated Heart for another hospital to be closer to his son. Saying goodbye to many people he’s worked with and his best friend, Turk. The place where he has worked for the past 8 years, people that he has grown to care for. It was touching and nostalgic, to say the least.

This is somewhat reflctive on one of my current situations. Laura, is moving back to Washington and just going to visit here and there. For the past year, we haven’t gone more than a few weeks without seeing each other and just hanging out. It’s going to be difficult to transition from being to hang out with her almost on bimonthly basis to seeing her every couple of of months, if that.

In the next few years we are going to grow up, we are going grow apart from people. We move, we get jobs that take most our times, we date, we get married, we have kids… then we rarely see each other.The times we do see each other are probably big occasions; birthdays (ours or our children’s), weddings, Christmas (Hanukkah). It’s just part of life.

I remember before I left high school, I said I would stay in touch with tons of people… Yet I never really did. And while I’m still fairly connected with some people I went to APU with, driving about 70 miles round trip- it’s going to be harder to justify as time goes on. There will be a time when that will be more of a burden just to visit a friend.

For someone that accepts and enjoys change, this is really the first time I want things to stay the same. Yes, I know it is selfish and I’m ok with that.

It’s going to be very different… When we grow up, we don’t don’t have all the time in world. We are burden by responsibilities.

I don’t want that to happen. I want things to stay the same. I want to have my friends close.

This is vast contrast to the person I was just last year…. very emotionally detached from people. We all evolve… Sadly, this one of those things that happens. As such… something I will have to deal with.

Yet I wish her the best of luck.

After having dinner tonight… I got closure, in a sense. We said our goodbyes… everything just feels resolved.

I wish her the best of luck in her endeavors. For she is not only someone I consider a friend; she’s family. Hopefully we’ll see each other in August.

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